Category: Singles Spit Swap
Okay, let me start out by saying that this might not be the right board for posting this, but I am single again. I was dating a user on here. He lives in New York and I in tennessee. Everything was going good, with no hint of problems. then, all of a sudden, I wake up this morning with about 10 or so texts on my phone. When I check them, I find out that i'm being broken up with ... by text message, for crying out loud!!! What kind of a person does that??? I mean, really!!! But it's okay, because as God is my witness, and with His help, I will bounce back from this, and I will find a man who is ten times the man than this little boy ever thought about being. Just had to rant for a second ...
Just the sign of the times I suppose. If I received a text breaking up, I'd call the person and ask them to tell me on the phone. Email is better, but text works I suppose. You can do anything by text. Lol
Good luck. Keep a fun view of it all. Smile.
Call me old-fashioned, but I think something like that ought to be done not in writing. in person is best, but if it just can't, or isn't feasible that it, happen that way, then by phone is the second alternative. that way, emotion can't be hidden and has to be faced.
I agree, but it is how the "little boys" do it! Get a man!
This board is generally for people who are single and looking. Somehow I doubt that is the case for you, at the moment at least. having said that, nobody deserves to A. get broken up with over text, and B. get broken up with no explanation whatsoever, and no chance to voice your thoughts. People who do that are nothing but cowards.
She's looking.
I'm in the same boat, and have been since the end of january, so I understand where you're coming from, because it was two years of my life I'll never get back.
ForReel, someone who is ranting about the ending of their previous relationship doesn't strike me as someone who is currently looking. I don't mean to sound insensitive, and your grievances are most certainly valid. This just doesn't come off as a single and looking type of topic to me.
What the hell?! I thought things were going great, just like you said. The spineless little git. Anyway, I'll give you a call later.
Maybe you're right ocean, but she does say single again. Maybe she'll say so we can know for sure?
You'll find the right person. Sometimes it just takes time for some people. God will give you the person who he wants, so just hang on and keep praying.
I think it's silly to convince people there's someone for everyone. I personally don't believe that.
but, back to the topic at hand: to the original poster, try to take some lessons from this experience, instead of focusing on what a classless guy you seemed to be with. doesn't sound like he was worth your time, if he broke up with you via text.
First, let me just say that I'm not actively seeking someone, but if they happen to just come along, then great. this guy and I are still speaking, we are trying to be friends ... He knows that he needs some therapy for his issues. i have told him that once he gets the help he needs and if I see a marked change in how he feels about himself, then I might reconsider it. there was no big explanation for the breakup, it was surrounding issues entirely within himself. That is why I say I am not actively looking. However, if a good prospect comes along, I won't pass it up. And becky, it was going great, right up until I got those texts. and even his friends are telling him that he was stupid, that those feelings were something we could've talked through and that we would still be together had he not done that. But I told him, you don't get to just step all over my heart and then expect me to come back to you as if nothing ever happened.
Good luck. :) You never know who you might meet in the near future.
Good for you for standing your ground. that's a really good quality to have.
I disagree with Chelsea. I believe there is someone for everyone, but the question that has to be asked is: do you want to find that person or simply stay single? It does take time for some people to find the right person, and I think that in Woman of Wisdom's case, that's more than likely what's happening here. Some people just have a preference to stay single, while others have a tendency to be more flurtaceous or social and might want a mate. So I believe that anyone can find the right person; it's jjust a matter of time and patience at times. I've found that if you aren't in a hurry for a relationship, you will have more of a chance of finding the right person, because you're giving yourself time to get to know people a little better than when you're in a hurry. Just my two cents.
nothing wrong with being single :) but having a partner has its advantages too.
wow breaking up through text. seriously not my style. however with that said i am not to take relationships long distance anymore. but to each their own i suppose.
I wish you luck. and hope it all works out and gets sorted out for you. . btw. Takeing time for yourself will help.
I agree. My dad has had some very bad health problems recently, and so I am consumed with aspects of that. I am glad I decided to take some time for myself, because I just don't have it in me to start a relationship right now. Now, that being said, it would have been nice to have somebody to go with me to the hospital at 2 in the morning on the day my dad was taken there, and to be with me while he was going through brain surgery, and then on from there into his recovery. It would've been nice to have that person to lean on, to cry with, to pray with, and so on. My brother's girlfriend was there for him like that, and that is when I missed having somebody, when I saw her encouraging and supporting him like that ... as one of the previous posters said, there are indeed benefits to having a partner ... definitely those other than what I listed here, and I'm confident that I will, at some point in the future, find somebody.
I'm sorry for your dad's health. I felt by the same way while my dad was in the hospital on 2008.
He is no more now though.
Raaj
well a person who does doesn't deserve your time old girl that is some childish stuff. people just don't know when to grow up good luck old girl
It seems like you're a sweet, loving lady, so you'll find somebody. Hang in there and keep praying.
amen to that don't settle for some fool who lost a good thing when he had it. if he changed and learned to communicate then quizas if you still like him in that way but if you don't then move on. but let him know if your not feelin him we all do stupid shit
most people disagree with my outlook about there not being someone for everyone, but I'm confident in it, and that's all that matters.
it seems to me that there might be a shot with you guys because in an earlier post you said if you saw a true change in him then you'd reconsider. if you loved or still love him don't through it away just like that it seem to me that you guys had a good thing untill that point. i'm 100 percent sure he's not doing to well if he cares about you.
Some people say there is someone out there for everyone, others don't think so at all. I think it all comes down to fate. If there is, you'll find out.
Hello, woman of Wisdom,
I am a Christian and I attend Liberty University. Here are some verses I want to leave you with.
Mat 5:32:
32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Roms 13:13: 13 Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.
Finally, some verses dealing with strength.
EX 15:2: 2 “The Lord is my strength and my defense
he has become my salvation.
He is my God, and I will praise him,
my father’s God, and I will exalt him.
The Lord's Prayer:
Our Father, Who is in heaven,
Holy is Your Name;
Your kingdom come,
Your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our sins,
as we forgive those who sin against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.
We pray before every class at Liberty; if you believe these words, it may help with your struggle. If you ever want to talk, I am open for discussion. I am looking for a woman who loves God before she loves me!
Dog guide Hardy and Nathan.
Uh okay that just sounds odd. You really limit yourself buy waiting to find a woman who follows your god but to each his own.
Not only that, but you rely on the bible to find inspirational words, for yourself and for others? what ever happened to finding them within, o, let's see; yourself?
I don't believe in fate or destiny. I don't believe in soulmates. I don't believe in inspirational quotes. I do believe in plain old dumb luck. If you find somebody, and they can see all your quirks and flaws and love you for every last one of them, that wasn't orchestrated, no grand design, you're not pieces on a celestial checkerboard, you're just fortunate, that's all.
very well said, Chris. I completely agree.
A bit odd to judge someone based upon biblical scripture, isn't it? Where will you all go when you die?
A bar hopefully
Lmfao! I like that idea.
By the way, we're not judging you based on biblical scripture; we're judging your specific post on the fact that you chose to use it, instead of your own advice or your own words of wisdom, to try to inspire someone. She may find comfort in your post, and if she does, great. I just find the fact that you chose to resort to the bible instead of your own words very uninspiring. Might I point out that at no point did I say this makes you a boring or uninspirational person. See the difference between judging you, and judging your post?
In Heaven there is no beer; we better drink it all while we are here. (a verse from a polka).
See now that's an inspirational advice
How you know Dee! Don't forget the wine! Smile.
Funny thing, when I die, I'd like to be dead, I thought that was what dying was all about, not going somewhere.
listen, religious people. if you want to be ever saint without a beer, without scotch or without an orgasm, god will punish you for not using the opportunity which was given to you as an human being, you know.
So start rocking the world. life is short so make it sweet, I say. don't get punished. Don't go to the hell by being a saint.
Raaj.
I love it!
Smile.
Wait a minute, hold on a second. So we've got people that say God will punish you for having a good time. Then you have people who say God will punish you for not having a good time. Conclusion: you're fucked, God will just punish you because he wants to and not because of anything you have or haven't done. Now is this a god worth paying any homage or respect to? Is this proper behavior for a being who is supposed to embody love itself and is otherwise perfect, bigger and more bad-ass than any human? If not, this inconsistency is a pretty damn good sales pitch for atheism, plus it's pretty decent proof that only a messed-up and psychotic species as mankind would make up such a being and call it a god.
Oh, Lard! Save me!
Wait a minute, I don't think this is a place to start debating about who's doing what the wrong way and the right way. She's wanting some comfort, and she believes in the Bible, so let her have what she wants. Let's respect other people's ways of doing things.
Oy vey, again with the respect thing. LOL!
I don't know if I could date another user on here. I tried that and it didn't really work out because of the distance thing.
Wow, talk about getting seriously off-topic. There are all kinds of ways to inspire or comfort someone, and perhaps this person might have been resorting to the Bible based on the fact that she is a Christian. That works well in some situations, not so much in others. I, personally, although Christian, would not want Bible verses thrown at me when I present a problem to someone; if they don't have anything comforting or productive to say, I'd much prefer them just tell me so directly and just let me know they're listening. Most of the time, that's more than good enough for me, but I understand not everyone operates this way.
Having said this, Ashley, I understand perfectly well what you're going through. My ex and I broke up in January via Skype, and while that's not nearly as unpleasant as a text message, it still hurt as she is local to me, so it didn't even have to be that way. I'm glad he's taking time to work on himself as I believe that if you cannot be at least reasonably happy with who you are, you'll find long-lasting relationships extremely difficult. That being said, I know people who say they are taking the time to work on themselves only to get back in someone's good books, so I hope that's not your situation. Good luck with everything, and keep your head up. Will be praying for you.
Hello,
I just thought that some verses from the Bible might prove inspirational was all. Honestly, I am not super religious, I like drinking alcohol, and rarely attend church. I was just trying to make her feel better. If it is any consulation, I lost my dog guide this month. While he is not a person, I still had a meaningful attachment to him. It is difficult when relationships end so abruptly,leaving you between a rock and a hard place. Unfortunately, if he decided to break up with you via text messages, he is probably not worth pursuing. Were those words inspirational enough? See, I didn't resort to the Bible this time. What do you think?